loving when you want to give up

What do you think keeps you from giving up?

This was Kerrah Fabacher’s final question to me in our live ig chat several weeks ago.

I started telling her there are small moments when we do give up. And I think that’s okay.

We are human and we will have brief moments of looking to the heavens and throwing our hands up in surrender. Staying in this posture is when it becomes damaging to the relationship. Our earthly desire is to give up and walk away sometimes, but we, sisters, have a higher calling.

Two words come to mind when I start thinking about staying when the desire to run is high.

The first is perspective. When you are facing moments or seasons of tension and unease in your marriage, try to take the airplane view. Are you or your husband making a situation feel larger than it is?

And sister, this is hard. We can easily get caught up in the drama of an argument or disagreement, but keeping perspective will help you continue to love when you want to give up.

The second word I think of is calling.

If you and your husband are both believers and pursuing your faith in Jesus individually and with each other, you have a calling on your life through your marriage.

If you read in Genesis, it becomes clear the Lord created Adam for a very specific reason. Adam was put on this earth to work. He was immediately tasked with naming the animals and he did this for a while until the Lord saw that it wasn’t great for him to be alone.

Eve was created to be his helper.

So, if you are someone who is called into marriage, which we know not every woman is, but if you are married, you sister, are called to be his helper. It is in your DNA to serve your husband well SO THAT he can fulfill his calling to work where the Lord has placed him.

When you live out your marriage with this perspective, it becomes clear when you want to give up, how doing so would be like turning your back on God.

God has crafted your marriage for so much more.

God has crafted your husband’s place in the military and your place beside him because your marriage is so much bigger than you.

If you give up or let circumstances come between you, you are going against the calling the Lord has placed on your life.

When loving him is hard or you want to give up, remember to keep a realistic perspective and stand firm in your calling.

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